marriage in the family

I must admit that I really suck at writing these blog posts and keeping up with writing them. I know I promised one every week but I was unaware of how busy one gets during the summer with work, getting ready for school, hanging out with friends and help planning a sister's wedding. Oh yes, my sister Kara finally got married on August 20th and I couldnt of been more happy for her. I'm really glad its over too. The stress of being the maid of honor can be overwhelming at times especially if the bride demands everything to be perfect. With planning a bridal shower, coming to all her appointments, shopping for any necessity she swore she needed for that day, and writing a talk for the family dinner program, the duties of the MOH come with great responsibility and STRESS. Anyway the day of the wedding finally came and I had survived all the planning so I thought the worst was over. I just had to show up in my dress and smile the whole day. Here is my story of this "perfect day."
The day before the wedding I was working on my talk that Kera and I had to give at the family dinner. I started working on it around 1pm and did not finish till the wee hours in the morning. This talk consisted of how kara and jason first met and funny stories about them. You would think this would be a cinch! but i can assure you that it was not. The story of how kara and jason first met is not a fascinating story, its not like he slayed a dragon to get to her, climbed a really long tower to save her, or travelled a great distance only powered by love just to meet her. and from my understanding kara didnt eat a poisoned apple, prick her finger on a spinning wheel, or get locked away in a castle with her only friends as mice waiting for her true loves kiss. Those would have made good stories. Anyway, we made do with what we had. Next we had to come up with funny stories about them. This was really difficult because my sister is not that funny. Like she can be funny sometimes like she can pull some pretty amusing faces, and she comes up with some real good one liners but nothing super embarrassing that you only use as wedding talk material. Most people you can reminisce about the good old days and have about 10 stories in a couple hours. If your anything like me, you can just wait five min and I will give you a brand new story because I do something embarrassing everyday of my life. Kara is the opposite, I actually had to put some thought into this. Finally after brainstorming, for a whole frito lay shift (8hrs) I proudly came up with 4 good stories, I even wrote them down so I would not forget and have to go through another painful shift only thinking about kara. Jason was a little more tricky because I did not grow up with this boy and everyone else who did, couldnt think of a story either. I tried calling his younger brother and one of his friends hoping they could give me some dirt on jason but nobody had any appropriate stories EEP! I was ready just to make up a great false outlandish story of my own but then finally a couple of jason's friends called me and saved me and I was able to finish this talk by 3am.
**********The next day. THEE DAY**********
I had to wake up eary because I had a hair appointment which was at 9 am. I was just planning on getting it styled for the wedding because I have never had my hair professionally styled for anything, not even my graduation. Only because I wore a neckbrace when I graduated because I had a broken neck. This made it hard to colour or, wash my hair at a salon, I couldnt even trim it!. So the only thing the hair dresser could do is curl it normally, inwhich it came out by the time I got back to Stirling. So I was a little excited that I was getting my hair done. Also I didnt really want to worry about doing my own hair. I swear my hair knows when there are important events going on that day and it totally acts up and gives me attitude. for real it has a mind of its own, but I thought it was nothing professionals couldnt handle. So I arrive at chatters and ask for the beach wave kind of look, I showed the hair stylest a picture exactly of what I wanted. I was going to get some hair extensions but I couldnt because they had none that matched my hair colour. My hair was too dark because I dyed it the night before for a little change plus hair people overcharge for colouring anyway so I wanted to save some money. Anyway it was a no go on hair extensions. So the hair dressor got to work on my hair and really this was our conversation:
Hair dresser (we'll call her Betty): your hair is really dry
me: well....is there any products that I can use to add moisture to it?
Betty: anything that says moisture on the bottle
me: is there any top products that I can use that are really good for moisture?
Betty: this moroccan oil is really good but its expensive. it makes your hair shiny and soft. you can feel a difference just after one use.
me: turns out i already have this oil, it was $40 and it actually does work I just dont use it all the time because it was expensive and I want to savour it for all the special times in my life haha. k lol
Betty: when was your last appointment?
me: early june...
Betty: yes, well you have split ends.
me: trim them?
Betty: who did your hair last?
me: some girl at chatters on the southside ( k this girl who did my hair last ruined my life because she gave me the worst hack job ever ! its like she tried to put in layers but had no idea what she was doing! its like she put a bowl on top of my head and cut around the bowl with just the top layer of my hair. Its hideous! I explain this to betty).
Betty: yes, I dont understand what she was trying to do here. To trim your hair Im gonna have to take 2 inches off.
me (who has been trying to grow out my hair forever, gasps): just do the bare minimum, Im trying to grow my hair out
Betty: when was the last time you thinned your hair out?
me: I never have, I just have really fine and thin hair
Betty: never? are you sure? its really thin
me: never. its natural
Betty: hmpff well dont ever thin your hair out again because it is already really fine and thin.
me: k..... *long pause* is there anything good about my hair?
Betty: uh......*another long pause* hmmmmmmm....... I like the color.
me: I dyed it yesterday....oh good at least I did something right.
Betty carries on curling my hair and soon she is done and she turns me to the mirror. What I see is not what I had pictured at all, it didnt even resemble the picture I showed her of what I wanted my hair to look like. Instead it looked like I had curled it the night before and had the most wildest sleep. Or I lived in this dumpster bin and didnt own a brush or a shower for that matter. I promised myself I would fix it when I got home and I quickly went to pay so I could leave. "$60.67 please?" Mother fuuuuuuuuuuuu..... ! no i didnt really curse but are you kidding me? I had to pay $60 just to get my hair styled how I didnt want it and get critisized the whole time I was there? I drove to kera and alissa's house to wash it out and start all over again and washed it, blow dried it, and curled it in a matter of a half hour. So it was a miracle I was even smiling when I finally arrived at the wedding to begin with. Then, I thought that the worst was over. I had made it to the wedding, I still looked somewhat presentable, and I wasnt late. But no! I started to feel a bit ill, like the chills came and I wanted to stand in the hot 32 degree celcius sun to warm up, I felt a bit achy which is ten times worse when your wearing high heels standing for pictures all day. At the family dinner the only thing I could force myself to eat was the small portion of peas and carrots. The family dinner wasnt all too bad. I had to give a talk but even that went all right. It wasnt as funny as it was at 3am but nothing ever really is, I didnt fall off the stage which I was kind of worried about too so I would say everything went well. Then came the reception, where I had to stand in line and shake people's hands as they walked by. my poor feet! and I swear if I got a dollar for everytime someone walked through and said any of these phrases "oh such a sweet younger sister, oh your older? and ya let her beat ya? " or " are you jealous that she is getting married and not you?" or "when are you planning on getting married, your next you know? is there even a guy in the picture?" I would of been able to join kara and jason on their honeymoon paying mine and their way lol. Like what do you say to these people?
 To tell you the truth, Im not that jealous at all. Maybe I was a little at first but it wasnt just because Kara was getting married first it felt like all my friends were getting married and I hadnt reached that step yet and I thought there was something wrong with me. Although that still may be true, I have come to accept it and move on. If anything I am more excited about my wedding. Its gonna be alot different then Kara's I think. Not that she threw a bad one but I am different and I like things to be unique. I am excited because I know I can have a wedding too and I get to look forward for that day while kara's has gone and passed. Im not going crazy and planning it out right now but I just cant wait for that day and when it finally comes I'll be as happy as she was. HAPPY not BOSSY. I make an oath right now that I will not be a bridezilla. I am however, jealous of a couple things. First of all, They bought a house. Its a cute little brand new house and Im jealous becuase I live with roommates and I long to have a place of my own. second, the honeymoon. I really need a vacation but I have no money to go anywhere farther then work and back :( Oh well like I said my time will come. I am actually excited to see how their marriage all plays out. Of course I wish them both the best and they both know that I love them dearly. So heres to having a new brother in law and a sister thats married!